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my boy

we were at my in-law's home yesterday for a visit. Ben was in rare form. He's really into games now, and is pretty clever, if I do say so.
Anyway, my father-in-law asked Ben, jokingly "Ben, you're really smart. How did you get like that? Why are you so clever?" Ben says "Grandpa, you know why. It starts with an H." My father-in-law had no idea. Ben says "Hashem made me so smart, grandpa. He's the Ruler, you know."

That's my boy :)

and then...

my mom gets a beautiful letter written by one of my dad's former colleagues, a very frum Catholic man. He arranged for a Mass to be said in my dad's honor. A Mass in my dad's honor.
We are amused/confused. At least he has all his bases covered....

WS madness

pretty much all of Boston is under some sort of parking restriction/ban, due to the World Series, as well as the President being in town.
I am a Yankees fan, always will be. But part of me wants the Sox to win (blasphemy!!), because if they don't, a pissed of riot is way more dangerous than a happy, celebratory riot.
I was born and raised in NY, and I never saw the level of ridiculousness and destruction when the Yankees won the World Series. WTF Boston? Either way, it's not going to be good. I hope I'm proven wrong.

ah, mental health

I had an initial intake appointment tonight with a new therapist. Plusses so far: she seems quite competent and friendly, is experienced, and we had a good rapport. The downside: her office is in a drug treatment program. She sees her private clients at her current job setting. It's not really a big deal, as I go after hours. I have to get over the idea that people may see me walking into her clinic waiting room.
Good thing I don't give a shit about people's misconceptions about mental health and those who are consumers.

Differences, and how to address them with a young child.....

Something that I’ve been thinking a lot about lately is how to address the issue of illness, disability, and people who for whatever reason look “different” to Ben. A few months ago, Ben and i were taking a walk. A Little Person walked past us, and we said hello. Be stated that “he looks like a kid and an adult. Which is he?” I explained that he was an adult that happened to be small, and Ben was perfectly happy to move on to debating me about which super hero could go undefeated in battle. We saw a person with a cane yesterday, and he asked me in a loud voice “why do they have THAT?! “ He went on to ask me if they got hurt, if they forgot how to walk, and all sorts of things only a 5 year old can ask. I explained as best that I could that sometimes people need help getting around, and that he may see people in wheelchairs, using walkers or canes. Or, they may walk with a limp. I also explained how sometimes people may look different than we do for all sorts of reasons, whether it being that they have limbs missing (this came up last year), have scars, or other injuries. It’s not “funny,” just different looking. The message I was trying to give him is that people can be different on the outside, and that it’s what they do, and how they interact with us, that’s truly important. I think he gets that as best that he can.
My big question is how to respond when he asks these things loudly, in public. Like “hey! is he an adult or a kid!?” or “why does her face look funny?!” The last thing I would want is for someone to feel insulted or embarrassed. And are there other ways to describe someone with differences in a way that he will understand?
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holy shit

Is there a draft in here? Why is it so damn breezy in my office?
Oh, I know why...I just ripped a new one by a family.

holy shit words can't even begin to describe the meeting I just had.
I need a drink. or a toke.
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stupid diabetes. stupid PMS that makes my blood sugar spike in spite of a VERY low-carb breakfast. Stupidstupidstupid.
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this is hard work

my job can be very stressful. It's so difficult to not get emotionally attached to my clients and their families.
I have a new client who is 16. All I want to do is give him a hug and tell him that he's going to be okay. But I can't.
I have another client-actually, it's a married couple- who's son has severe OCD. I have to support them while they essentially sit back and watch him hit rock bottom. Oy.
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